Steps to Abstain From Crying in the Workplace

Whether it’s over a stressful meeting, a terrible boss, or a bad breakup, many people has cried in the office at least once specially women.

But like it or not, crying is stigmatized in the workplace. Tears can come across as weakness and be attributed to females not being able to “hack it” on the job.

Your colleagues may view crying as immature, melodramatic, or even manipulative.

Women and men in positions of leadership are socialized to believe that crying equals vulnerability, and that vulnerability connotes incompetence, or the inability to handle difficult situations.

If you find yourself fighting back tears in the office, take these steps, recommended by Ms-JD.ord, to help:

1. Concentrate on your relaxing

Influence yourself to take ten moderate, deep breaths. The extra oxygen will give you a bit of a high, Calming you. The activity also changes your focus.

2. Make a step back

If you can put some separation amongst yourself and a stressor, do it. Sit tight for your feelings to chill off. Where conceivable, abstain from planning possibly enthusiastic gatherings until after the tidy has cleared.

3. Distract yourself with torment or different sensations

Some people suggest biting the inside of your cheek, or digging a fingernail into the palm of your hand. Another trick is to hold an ice cube to your wrist or run it under really cold water.  Do whatever you safely can to shift the focus of your attention—hopefully enough to avoid shedding tears. The key is to create a sensation intense enough to distract from the emotional distress.

4. Utilize Props

Set a plan for your meeting—a physical piece of paper that you can set on the desk in front of you or hold in your hands. If that doesn’t fit the situation, carry a legal pad or your PDA to take notes.

Look down with the preteens of jotting notes; read from them if you find yourself choked up.

5. Give yourself a chance to get furious

Is your tendency toward tears in a professional setting coming from a discomfort with your own anger? Girls are not often socialized to express anger or engage in conflict.

Our childhood habits are hard to unlearn, but we can teach ourselves new skills as adults. Allow yourself to get angry. More comfort with conflict may mean fewer tears.

6.  Attempt behavioural change

The general idea of behavioural therapy is to pay more attention to problem thoughts and behaviours, so that you can habituate better ways to deal with them. If you notice a behaviour pattern—say, you always tear up before meetings with your boss—practice implementing coping mechanisms.

If classical music calms you down, get in the habit of popping in your headphones 15 minutes before the start of predictably tough meetings.

You control your emotional responses. You are empowered by that control. The more you can reinforce this message to yourself, the more successfully you may manage your responses to stressful situations.

7. Do it for somebody else

Reframing a personal confrontation as a confrontation on behalf of someone else can make it easier for women to overcome stressful situations. In this vein, getting past ourselves and our own insecurities can get us past a lot of tears.

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